Blame = No Change!

When you blame others, you give up your power to change!

It is no secret that up until 15 years ago, I was filled with hate...hate toward specific people for the abuse, pain and hurt they caused me. I blamed those specific individuals for my circumstances. That blame turned into hate and wanting revenge and justice! Although there may have been some truth to that, there came a time when I needed to take responsibility for my actions. Yes, responsibility for the actions THAT I CHOSE...

• I cut my own body...nobody else did!
• I burned my forearms...me, not another person!
• I lied, cheated and stole...not the people that harmed me!
• I chose to get consumed with various relationships!
• and the list goes on and on.................

.................Rregardless if it was a result of what I was exposed to or I was running, hiding, dealing, or "pre-disposed" to those conditioned responses..... at some point I had to look at the face of change in order to receive freedom and healing!

If I continued to BLAME the person or persons for where I "ended up" in life, then I would remain in that negative downward spiral. In essence, I would get stuck and stay stuck. Now, who wants to STAY STUCK? You would remain stuck in a world of hate and bitterness, getting worse every day in your attitude and wondering why things aren't going well for you.

This is where people stop reading or walk away from me...so, don't stop reading! :-)

Is it that comfortable in the muck and mire that you would want to live in that stinky mess for the rest of your life? If you are honest with yourself, you would answer "No way".

Who chooses to be like that?

• Those that feel it is desereved!
• Those that don't want to change
• Those that cannot forgive
• Those that want a reason for why they turned out the way they did

There comes a time when we must move on from the blaming of others in order to gain the power to change our attitudes and ultimately change our lives!

If you remain the same than you are not changing. If there is blame, your focus is on another person, or others! Should you continue tl blame, you will have no change. BUT, you forgive, choose to move on...you will begin to obtain the ability to change and go forward in life instead of staying stuck!

When you blame others, you give up your power to change!